Wednesday, 19 August 2015

Happy 3rd Heaven Birthday

Happy 3rd Heaven Birthday my baby Alanna.

Can't believe it has been three years my life have changed.  How I look at life differently. How I look at things differently. Wonder what would you look like you turning 3 today. In my eyes I see you as a baby but other days I see you as a little child just smiling and playing in heaven. Wonder what shape eyes you have... my eyes or maybe your dad's chinky eyes. All I can do is wonder, visualize and dream.

Have to bring your brother and sister in their swim class today.. i know you'll be watching from up there. Ate wants to get you balloons for later.


Happy 3rd Birthday Alanna... missing you and I love you.


Tuesday, 12 August 2014

I Don't Know

A week from now and it will be Alanna's birthday(or is it her Death Anniversary?).. I don't even know what to call her "special day" (Do I call it special day? is it really special when I know this is saddest day of my life?) I've been trying to forget and not to think about it. Is that something bad? it this normal? I've been trying to avoid  because I don't really know what to do that day. Almost 2 years your gone and still I don't know how to face this feeling... 

Again, I am lost. Do I celebrate? or Do I cry and be sad about you being not here? 
Do we go out and eat and celebrate like when we celebrate your brothers and sister's birthday? Or should I be quiet about it and act like its a normal day?

There are days when I am mad and I don't know why. I want to blame myself, I want to blame my doctor, and even days when I want to blame God... and I don't know why.

I wish there is a book for it. Maybe titled "Losing a child for Dummies"? Maybe there is such thing but again I know one loss is different from another. I really wish I know but I don't know.

All I know is I really, really miss you Alanna and I really wish you are here. I wish I can hold and hug you again. I am sorry I got so scared. I wish I stayed with you longer in that hospital. I didn't know what to do.

I love you for infinity and beyond.

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

Going through it again

It's happening again. My doctor said I am going through depression. I am back to my medication because my moods starting to "act up". Can't sleep normally. One day I am all happy, next day I am the saddest person in the whole world. Alanna's death anniversary is coming up. Do I celebrate? What to do? No birthday party for my little girl. Even hard to say "death anniversary". Why not birthday? There are times you just wake up with tears in your eyes. All question. What to do.

Last week, I was getting rid of my kids toys and I see all this baby toys I was saving for Alanna. Pain. I had to stop and had to put them all in the plastic to give away. Some of the toys I imagine how she will be playing with them by this time. Heartache. Ice.

I've dwell enough. I've pretended it never happened. I thought I've survived but it feels like I am drowning again. I don't like this feeling. Weird, crazy feeling. Roller coaster --up and down -- up and down. It's like riding the Ferris wheel when your up you get that feeling, that excitement in your body when it goes down.. Hard to breathe, or is it the heart that sometime you need to inhale and exhale, no actually you feel so light when your up there. Sometimes with the over excitement you feel like you don't want to breath anymore, maybe the pain will go away. But then of course you have to go down that ferris wheel because of the other people waiting for you to come down.

I have been off from work since the past week. I just can't go to work with this feeling that I have. I tried so much to fake happiness until you make a normal life again. Sometimes I have to pretend it didn't happen. Scream. Cry. Just most days I don't know what to do. Don't know where to go.

Stay home-- flashes. reminds you of that day, thinking of what I could have done differently. It's so hard when you know even if you think of it there is nothing you can do. You can't bring the time back. No rewinding. That's it! I can not bring her back. I can't stay home!

Going out-- you see babies, kids. I've never seen so many babies sometimes. You turn left, you turn right. You compare. You think of what it would have been if Alanna is alive. Really hard to be happy. You feel guilty because you see your children happy and in you heart you are missing one. I can't go out!

My children-- Missing one in the picture

I don't really know where to go for the past few days 'til now. I can't go to work, hard to stay home and even just go out. Sometimes you feel you just want to die because  you feel that's the only solution so you don't feel anything. But then, I know my other kids still needs me and this is not the solution. I would want them to feel what I'm feeling. They've already lost a sister, what more if they lost their mother. Unthinkable.

I guess I just need time. Need to hit this wall. Grieve. I know I will be okay and I just need time to heal again. I am down but I know I will be up there. I will be okay.

Monday, 14 July 2014

Things happens for a reason...

THINGS HAPPENS FOR A REASON... and so I've been told... I just can't figure out what's the reason 'til now. I've thought of a lot of reasons but moost of them just give me heartaches.  I really hope I know what's the reason. Do you? Does things really happen for a reason? 
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